Lessons from a good family

Living with a family that is not my own has been a humbling lesson. It has been interesting to watch and participate in new traditions and customs with a different family. As a fellow, I got to partake in almost all the aspects of family life. My host family always made me feel included. Before dinner, I would help set the table and keep my host mom company in the kitchen. After dinner and on weekends, I would spend time with my host dad reading in the study or enjoying meaningful conversation about life, work, current events, and faith. My host sister and I had many great opportunities this year to go to concerts together, hike the Billy Goat Trail, re-decorate the basement, bike to Mt. Vernon, celebrate each other’s birthdays, and of course, snuggle up, eat popcorn, and watch movies together. During autumn, I had the fine privilege of raking leaves around the yard. During winter, I shoveled snow for the first time in the history of my life!

While my relationship with each family member is unique, I still value each one of them equally. It is indescribable the impact my host family has had on my life. I am still amazed that they would allow me to live in their home for a year and be so gracious. The family I live with has taught me the value of being real. Every moment I walk in the door, the father of the house always stands up and with a huge grin and says “welcome back, welcome home, Emily!” I have every intention of staying in touch with them, and making visits back to Falls Church no matter where I end up. I always remind my host sister that if I Ieave the DC area, I will never be more than a plane ride away.

Lessons I have learned from my host family:

1. A good family is not one in which no problems or conflicts occur
2. A good family creates a sense of community by sharing in responsibilities.
3. A good family welcomes and invites people into their home.
4. A good family practices traditions and retells stories.
5. A good family extends grace to one another.
6. A good family breaks bread and enjoys meals together.
7. A good family prays for one another.
8. A good family is thoughtful and considerate and always sends birthday cards.